I exited the shower one morning last week to find Mayhem standing in my bathroom announcing that I HAD to come to the office RIGHT NOW. Which is where she presented me with the most exquisite dress I’ve ever laid eyes on.
My eyes instantly filled with tears as I looked at her little face bursting with pride. But before I even had a chance to say anything, she gave me very specific instructions, “Hurry up and dry your hair, Mom. Then come back and I’m going to put the dress on you. And then I’m going to take pictures of you. OK? Oh and HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY MOM!!!” She threw her arms around me and squeezed as hard as she could. (For clarification, she constructed the dress a full week in advance of Mother’s Day, but after two agonizing days, she simply couldn’t wait any longer to gift it.)
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I grew up in a family where homemade gifts were a standard. Time spent thinking about who the gift was for and what they might like was nearly equal to the time spent constructing a gift. Hand print pictures turned into bouquets and “coupon books” for stuff like hugs and chores were carefully written. Paper cups with flowers ready to bloom were always met with gratitude and hugs.
But then I grew up.
I decided buying gifts was better. I thought spending money was how I could show that I cared for others. I was proud that I had earned the money and could use it to find something I thought they’d love.
Then, along came Mayhem. And I grew up some more.
Spending time with that kid feels like a gift everyday. (ALMOST everyday … just keepin’ it real.) And watching her grow, learn, develop new skills, build confidence and test her independence is mind blowing for me. All the cliche parenting stuff I’ve ever heard is true. Parenting is hard. And rewarding. And gut wrenching. And exhilarating. And exhausting. And there’s simply no better job in the world (for me!). Totally cliche. Totally my reality.
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As I walked back to my bathroom to dry my hair, I realized I might actually be growing up for real this time. I’m no different than all the other moms who wish for more sleep, quiet, coffee … yada yada yada, but I’m not even a little bit kidding when I say this dress is the best gift I could have received. Mostly because I know how very much time Mayhem sat by herself creating something just for me. It’s emotional to feel the impact you have on another person when it comes back to you.
I was drying my hair and thinking back over how much we’ve grown in the past year. It’s been a lot of new and exciting and sometimes scary and sometimes emotional adventures for us. There are days when it still doesn’t all feel real. I thought back to a couple of weeks ago when Mayhem was presented with her own “Mayhem” Barbie and I immediately started thinking about Ruth Handler. In case you’re not familiar with Ruth, she’s the creator of Barbie. And Ruth had a daughter named Barbara who used to sit on the floor, for hours on end, playing with paper dolls.
(I feel like Ruth and I would get along pretty well …) Ruth decided that Barbara and her friends needed a three dimensional figure to play with and dress up as they played out different characters and careers. And that was how Barbie was born. I wondered if Ruth had any idea how much of an impact creating something for her own daughter would eventually impact the world.
Then I started thinking about all the moms I know. The ones I know in real life and the ones that live in my phone via Instagram. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t see proof of how very much each and every one of them is impacting the world. Not only by raising and encouraging their own children, but by cheering for and raising up their fellow moms. But I wondered if they know ….
I thought about the superhero theme we’ve spent much of the year focusing on and quickly envisioned passing out capes to every mom in the world. There isn’t a doubt in my mind that each time our little people reach out to us for help they have an undeniable certainty that “mom has the power to fix it”, no matter what IT is. Moms really are their little’s first superhero.
My thoughts were interrupted by the ever familiar “MOM!!!” It was photo shoot time.
I was whisked to the office where Mayhem got to work taping me into my dress.
Then she got behind the camera…
And instructed me on exactly how to pose …
When she said we had enough images, I spoke up and said, “not quite”.
Then I showed her how to set the camera timer and we had a little fun creating what in my mind are the most important images.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms SUPERMOMS out there! May your day be filled with love and joy. And from one mom to another … thank you. Thank you for not only being an inspiration to your children, but for being an inspiration to me. I see you. And your invisible cape 😉
And a heartfelt thanks to Barbie (and Ruth Handler!). Not only for sponsoring this post, but for being a story that lives on about the impact a mom can have on the world by simply creating something to encourage her own child. It’s a story that inspires me deeply.
I am not a mother, but I truly loved this post. It is such a gift that you have given your daughter. It is so much fun to watch the things that you do together. Hopefully someday, I will have a child to let be exactly who they are. Happy Super Mother’s Day!
The first time I saw your story and photos, the images went straight to some spot in my brain with laser pinpoint accuracy, and activated some deeply buried memory of colors, lights and the joy of just simply
seeing and being . It’s still there and it feels as wonderful as it did the first time I saw your daughter’s (and your) creations.
I’ve stored this in the “go to vault in my soul, when I want to feel “just good all over.” Thanks for showing how feeling good can be so simple. No meds, no drugs, no searching or seeking. Just open my “go to mental vault” and rummage thru the file labeled “the good stuff”, where I keep images of the Mayhem gang- top shelf!!
I love everything about this: the dress, the story, your poses and the wonderful relationship you obviously have with your daughter.
Happy Mother’s Day!
This. This is my favourite.
My favorite Mayhem post ever! Happy Mother’s Day!
This might be my favorite post ever. Thank you for the wonderful words. I was smiling and tearing up at your writing, the photos, and the pure joy in Mayhem’s eyes. What a lucky girl, what a lucky mom (and dad), and what a lucky audience who gets to be inspired by all that you share. As a mom of two very creative girls (now 12 and 15), I hope you continue to inspire parents to allow their children (and themselves!) to let their creativity flow, grow, and shine!
This lovely post brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for being a brave enough mom to share this piece of your lives on social media. You and Mayhem always make me smile!
I haven’t even read the post yet but had to stop after that opening about stepping out of the shower. You start like half your amazing stories with that lol. Do you worry every time you get in what awaits you when it’s over? Haha
Ok finished reading, amazing as always! How did she manage all that time to work on it without you seeing it? And at least she waited till you showered and warned you to do your hair for pics this time lol. Will dad be getting a custom outfit for Father’s Day now?
Thank you for being and inspiration and for sharing your world with us. It’s a delight to see Mayhem and her creativity, and it is a gift that you choose to share just a bit of it with the world 🙂
this was so lovely. Happy Mother’s Day!
Simply the sweetest thing ever! Happy Mother’s Day!!
As if I thought you guys couldn’t get any cuter, then you go and do this.
Happy Mother’s Day to the best mom I know! And kudos to the best kid I know for making her feel as special as she deserves =)
I should really be in bed (it’s only 3am!), but I had to check y’all out before I close down the computer for the night! As I read, I wondered if I was as good a mother to my 3 girls as you are to Mayhem, and you know what?? I was!! I was a great mom, and I’m a great Gran to my beautiful grandchildren! And my daughters are all amazing mothers, bringing up their children in such a different world from the one they knew! So thank you for all the joy your family brings to our world, and for helping us to see the great, supermoms we all are!!
What a wonderful gift! She is a true joy! Thank you so much for sharing her with us all. Blessings to you both! Happy Mother’s Day!
This made me cry, I have been following you guys for a while. Your a truly inspiring mom and your daughter is adorable. I hope I an inspire my daughter as much as you have for yours. I just saw your feature in instyle as well. Congrats and congrats on the j crew line, can’t wait to see it.
Xx, michelle
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This was just adorable. Mayhem is truly a special girl. I’m amazed daily at how brilliant and creative she is along with how incredibly sweet. That says something about how amazing her mama is as well. Happy (belated) Mother’s Day!
Such a lovely post, Happy Mother’s Day to all inspiring mothers out there! 🙂
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How absolutely beautiful! Every part of the dress, your story, and the photographs!
Your daughter is such an inspiration. I don’t need to tell you how proud you should be because I know you are well aware, but she just amazes me so much.
Such kind words – thank you!!!
Hi, i’m brazilian girl. i loved your daughter, she’s beautiful, so cute… congratulations!!!!